to Julia

Have you ever had your chromosones checked?

Reason I ask is that you have a lot of masculine vibes.

Thanks for the response!

- nick

to Everyone

What would you like to know?

Do any of you wear pantyhose when the weather is colder? I love that.

- Joe

to Julia

How does one go about getting a date with Julia Allison?

- Joey

to Julia

Hi Julia,

Long time reader, first time emailer. You do fantastic work and should be very proud.

I write hoping you'll give me some advice. I'm a little embarrassed asking you something of this nature, and hope sincerely it's not in any way off-putting, but you seem to handle matters of all kinds with grace, and so I figured what the hell...

I just got engaged to the girl of my dreams. Every facet of our relationship is tremendous. And while we have a very healthy and fun sex life, my fiance tends to be a little shyer in the bedroom that I'd maybe want her to be. She's been with guys before me and knows what she's doing, but is still a little reserved. Anyway, she's never had a vibrator. Never really been interested in one...(I'm blushing writing this! Argh.) I thought that might be something new and fun we could explore together. But whenever I get her to look with me online for one, we end up on some raunchy website with the most industrial looking toys imaginable. So, Julia dearest, I was wondering if you could recommend either a website or a vibrator specifically that is non-threatening, and, um, effective?

Yikes I feel awkward writing this, but I'd very honestly appreciate your help!

Happy New Year!

Mike

- Mike

to Meghan

Well, I don't have a question, but Meghan, just a quick comment. (And I send it to you because your part of non society has been by far my favorite.-) That "we deserve it" video, it just seems to me you wouldn't be putting that up if you didn't subconciously think that you guys, or maybe at least one of you, yikes- might be like that. I know as a confident NY woman, as I also am, it is important to be witty, sarcastic, have a laugh at yourself, and, especially because you have a public website, to consistently build a bit of armour against opinion and, at the same time, the strong self confidence that noone's negative comments can 'bring you down' so to speak. And this is not what I am trying to do here- I do not believe in judgment- I am saying this as another 'sister' that has enjoyed your site. It just seems that there are tidbits here and there (this video posting being one of them) where you guys try to be tongue and cheek about what you think the public(or yourselves) may think your shortcomings are, and sometimes it comes off wrong, I feel. Like either a fear you have of you really thinking you actually are that way or it refutes the fact that your site says so often 'you guys don't care what other people think of the way you live. 'Differently' so to speak.
Does this make sense? It has a high risk of sounding very confusing! lol Anyway, I just thought you might want to re-think how this might be viewed. This video was a little fearful in my opinion. You don't have to prove yourself to ANY of us- even if you WERE like that. That's what we expect out of you guys, not to censor who you are.
Anyway- much success in 2009 and thank you for your fun site this past year.

- trenny

to Meghan

Hi Meghan,

Can you recommend a good/user friendly external portal hard drive? I'm a PC user. I bought a clunky external hard drive about 2 years ago when I moved from a desktop to a laptop and saved all my files in it. Then I couldn't retrieve any of them thanks to the non-user friendly software. I ended up reformatting it and getting rid of the software so now it works like another drive. However, now I want something portable. Can you recommend something user friendly that's more or less drop and drag.

Thanks!

Allison

- Allison

to Julia

What kind of camera do you use for your Videos? I have no clue and want to get a web video cam for my Dad for Xmas. Thanks!

- Amanda

to Mary

Hi Mary,

We have 3 Black tie weddings this year, so I was considering purchasing my guy a tux. Any advice for where to get a classic tuxedo that will carry him to a variety of events, but won't cost a fortune?

Thanks,
Liz

- Liz

to Everyone

Is nonsociety shutting down? With Mary in flux and Julia going back to school and the number of daily posts dwindling, it seems your interest has waned.

- Tom

to Everyone

I know you guys don't have mother-in-laws yet, but maybe other readers can give advice...
My fiance and I have lived together for almost 2 years (have only been engaged since August) and everytime his parents come to visit his mom takes over everything. She is the sweetest person in the world and I know she doesn't mean any harm, but it is to the point where I feel anxiety.
She starts cleaning our whole house (which I usually have spent feverishly cleaning days before their arrival,) trying to organize our closets, do our laundry, come into our bedroom to straighten up, cleans out our garage, makes every single meal while here (even though we may have already planned on cooking or made something in advance) and re-arranges kitchen appliances so 'they are more conveniently placed for us.'
I've talked w/ my fiance about this and tried to explain how it makes me feel and how I literally had a panic attack and had to lock myself in the bathroom for almost an hour and he has promised to speak with her about it.
My question is: Am I over-reacting? Should I just let her do everything and try to be grateful that I don't have to cook/clean/etc.?
If so, how do I try to do that? I'm a very private person and feel so weird having someone go through my house with a fine tooth comb. I've never thought of myself being somone who is 'controlling' or had to have control...but when she is in my kitchen I'm screaming inside my head "AAGGHH!! It's MY kitchen! Don' t move our utensils to that drawer!!" I basically want to know if I'm normal or being a bitch about it...

- G